Have you ever felt loneliness so crippling that it felt as if you were absently going through the motions of life? Have you ever considered why loneliness is good?
The starting point
We all experience this within our lifetime, and I have been struggling with this lately. Everyone wants to feel seen, understood, wanted, and loved. However, we may experience that crippling loneliness I mentioned in the absence of these things. The kind that makes you feel unworthy. Maybe you’re like me, and you are having difficulty finding where you fit in with your coworkers (more on this in another article!).
It may seem like everyone has a friend to talk to except you. I’m a very social person, but I’m also brutally honest, which has made it quite hard in my adult life to find meaningful friendships in the workplace. Since I spend most of my time there, I figured it would be easy to make friends, but it’s been quite the opposite.
He is working
Here is why loneliness is good: within it, my gaze has been lifted upward to my Heavenly Father. The time that I spend with Him becomes one of self-reflection and an opportunity for personal growth that I would have otherwise overlooked if I had been distracted by the company of others in this crucial season of my life. 2 Corinthians 4:17 tells us that our current troubles are “light and momentary,” and out of these troubles, we are “achieving eternal glory that far outweighs them all.” This includes the momentary affliction of loneliness.
Understanding that we are infinitely loved by God is a necessary step toward feeling His presence in the absence of the company of other people. Loneliness is good because our Good Father uses it to refine our hearts and redirect our focus to what truly matters: eternity with Him. The ultimate truth is that we are never alone all along our journey to healing in this life. Isaiah 41:10 tells us to “fear not, for [God is with us],” He will strengthen us, help us, and uphold us with His righteous right hand.
He is always with us
We have the breath of our Creator circulating in our lungs (psalm 33:6), reminding us of his faithfulness. We have good company in the thoughts, stories, poetry, and truth captured in the pages of God’s word. We have a community of believers in Christ whom we call our brothers and sisters in the faith. We are instructed to support one another (1 Corinthians 12:26,27), especially when tempted to believe that we are on our own.
When we are overcome with loneliness, we’ve been put in the perfect position by God to understand the magnitude of His grace and unconditional love.
In moments of feeling unworthy, I have spoken to God and felt His reassurance of my value and worth to Him as His child. I have read Deuteronomy 31:6, where God tells me not to be afraid because He is with me, won’t ever leave me, and will never fail me. On more than one occasion, I have been uplifted by His words because they actively change my mindset and set the tone for my day. He gently whispers in my heart to reveal the truth about things I can work on and the truth about who I am in Him.
Truths to hide in your heart
Soul sister in Christ, He reminds us daily in our solitude that we are never truly alone. He is always by our side, taking each painful step with us, praying on our behalf, and loving us unconditionally throughout our journey in this life. Take heart in knowing that you are a child of the Most High God! He gave you the most precious part of himself, His Son, as a sacrifice that we may one day join Him and be freed from the weight of our trauma, loneliness, anger, and resentment.